When one comes across a story like that of Kendrea Johnson, Victoria Martens or Brian Williard, one may be moved by a desire to somehow help the deceased, and question what one can do, since the person is, after all, dead.
In the previous post, I said of Kendrea, “You just want to take her in your arms, hug her, and make all the darkness go away.” Actually, you can if, at that moment, she is willing to be embraced. Your intuition will tell you her status in that regard at any given moment; or, may direct you at wholly unexpected times that, at this moment, that is so. See “Following guidance.”
There is a Jewish expression, “z’l,” meaning “Zikhrono livrakha,” “May his memory be for a blessing.” The corresponding form for a woman is “Zikhronah livrakha,” “May her memory be for a blessing.” A corresponding Gentile expression is “O.B.M.,” “of blessed memory.” Every time one uses such an expression, one honors the person who has passed on, and this is not without its effect beyond the veil.
Related: Give up the word “deserve.”
Related: Forgiving the cosmos
Related: Grief and sublimation
John C. Dorhauer’s “An Open Letter to White Men in America” begins:
Dear White Men,
You are persons of privilege.
You didn’t earn it.
This distresses me far less today than it did when I first read it. Maybe I’ve become more comfortable with having things I don’t deserve. More likely, I’ve lost all interest in whether people have things they don’t deserve or deserve things they don’t have.
I encourage you to lose all interest in it, too.
Continue reading 2) Give up the word “deserve.”
Where does it hurt?
That may not be where the problem is.
Continue reading Referred pain
This is the first of three posts about entitlement:
Today – “Entitlement(s): Attitude and policy”
07/19 – “How I became homeless”
07/26 – “When needs are met”
“In 2012, Social Security, Medicare and Medicaid alone represented 44 percent of spending; all entitlement programs were 63 percent. But it’s hard to control entitlement programs because their constituencies are so large.”
It makes sense to me that, as Samuelson proposes, we should discard the term “entitlements” as naming portions of the federal budget that are untouchable. No program should be sacrosanct.
Continue reading Entitlement(s): Attitude and policy
The serotonin levels of the members of a community profoundly affect the degree of harmony and prosperity (shalom) in that community. Continue reading Serotonin and society
A friend of mine, a Lutheran pastor, opposes capital punishment. But to my mind, her story, which she told me circa 1985, poses the premiere case for the death penalty.
She had a son, a lively pre-teen, who died suddenly under suspicious circumstances. At first, police found a person of interest in Arthur Goode, a known pedophile who was known to have been in the area at the time. It was soon enough established that Goode had been nowhere near the time and place of the death, and the death was ruled accidental.
That did not prevent Goode from harassing the family for years with phone calls and letters in which he spewed forth lurid details of what he now alleged he had done with the boy.
Continue reading A case for the death penalty
The flap over eggs • Amanda Knox • Another child star meltdown
Child porn is not so simple • Promise for Parkinson’s • Bail is for the birds
Birth injury fund sought
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This came up in Yahoo!’s “Trending Now,” and the search results included pages at newsmax.com and examiner.com. I had to search a bit to find an article at a REPUTABLE site. For everyone’s information, in general henceforth I will avoid clicking anything leading to newsmax OR examiner: the former is disreputable, and the latter generates too many ads … too many for me to cause y’all to have to deal with.
The new law, in short, seems to me to be good for everyone (read: humanity), and IMO though it’ll cost ’em money, Missouri has no reason to cluck.
Continue reading Eggsactly right; and other news
Ethnic differences don’t all need to be A Problem.
A certain woman has struggled for some years with alcoholism. I have followed her case because she’s close to me and because I am, after all, an alcoholic myself.
Continue reading Two Jews, three opinions